Not too long ago I was trying to find a parking space at a nearby shopping center. I pulled into an aisle and up ahead I saw the lights of a vehicle beginning to back out of a space. Score! So I quickly put on my turn single to secure my spot.
And then…can you believe that another car snuck in and took my space! I am quite sure this has happened to you as well!
There was no possible way that car got there before me because the aisle was all clear when I turned on my signal. And because of the way this vehicle pulled out of the space, the other car had an advantage over me in turning into the space…even though it wasn’t their space to take!
So needless to say…I was not happy. Seriously? The nerve of people. I actually found a parking space a few cars back and pulled in to park.
As I got out of my car, these ladies were just getting out of theirs. They saw me and turned away quickly. You better believe I walked faster to catch up to them.
I can tell they were trying to ignore me. I was so ready to give them a piece of my mind but instead I…actually the Holy Spirit inside of me… nicely said “Hello!”. One lady looked at me and flat out said “We got there first!”
Ok Lord…now can I give them a piece of my mind…cuz they are straight lying ya know?
As we all continued to walk, I…again the Holy Spirit (because Lord knows I would have said something much different!) …proceeded to say “Well, it seemed that maybe we got there at the same time.”
She glared at me and said… “No we got there first!”
Ok Lord…now can I fight? So then I said, “Well it seemed to me that maybe we got there at the same time. No worries. Have a great day!” And I walked ahead of them and into the store.
Would you believe that the one lady ended up right next to me in the shoe department of the same store! I smiled. Funny Lord!
Then I walked over to the next aisle and the other lady ended up right next to me. I smiled again.
Then she began to say to me “You are such a nice person. I am so sorry for the way my sister is acting. I told her she needs to apologize to you. She is going through a lot in her life right now and is having a really tough day.”
Wow! I was completely caught off guard! Just then her sister came over to me with tears in her eyes and apologized. I gave her a hug and said it’s ok. We all have our days! I will pray for you and pray that your day gets better! She smiled and said thank you very appreciatively.
The Lord showed me the other side of grace that day.
Now don’t get me wrong…my flesh was ready to come out and give these ladies a piece of my carnal mind and some days this does actually happen! Not recommended of course.
But today was different. Today God was on a mission to very intentionally show Himself to me.
I didn’t initially want to extend grace to these ladies…but because I did I was able to see the other side of grace.
I was able to see a woman who had a lot going on…a woman who was clearly troubled and discouraged… a women burdened with life…instead of a woman who was inconsiderate…mean…rude…and a straight liar.
What about you? Have you seen the other side of grace lately? How often do you extend grace to others?
As Christians we must extend grace…not because someone deserves it…not because we get something in return…but because it is one of Christ’s virtues…because it is who Christ is…and because we are to model Christ!
Grace is commonly defined as “unmerited favor or pardon; undeserved mercy; unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctification.”
And that’s exactly what Jesus showed us on the cross! And that’s exactly what Jesus shows us every single day. Grace! We can’t earn it and we don’t deserve any of it…yet we receive it freely as a gift from God!
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 NIV
By grace are you saved by faith and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God. Ephesians 2:8
As we approach Easter this year…what a great reminder of God’s grace towards humanity. What a great reminder of God’s love, mercy, and compassion towards us…our very reason of having eternal life!
Christ’s death on a cross is more than just an event in history or a symbol of Christianity. It represents the very foundation of God’s grace.
I am reminded of the commonly coined acronym for GRACE.
GRACE= God’s Riches At Christ’s Expense
But grace means much more than that!
In Hebrew, the word “grace” comes from chen and the root word chanan which is translated as “to bend or stoop in kindness to another as a superior to an inferior.”
In Greek, the word “grace” comes from charis and has the idea of graciousness in manner or and the root word chairo translated as “to be cheerful, happy.”
When [Grace] is used in reference to God, it is the benevolent action of Him stooping down to us in His kindness to reach us in our need, and convey upon us a benefit. His grace has been termed ‘unmerited favor’ but it is more than an attitude of favor or mercy. His mercy is an expression of His compassion toward us, but His grace is an extension of benevolence translated into action that releases His enabling power into our lives.
I just love that!
And how interesting that one of the definitions for grace is “unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctification.”
Look at this for minute…God’s grace is given to us for our sanctification. It gives us the power to live for Christ! It gives us the power to grow stronger in our faith!
For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope–the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. Titus 2:11-14 NIV
What exactly does extending grace to others look like?
Extending forgiveness…. extending love(ie. not keeping a record of wrongs)…extending patience…extending kindness…extending gentleness…extending goodness…extending self- control…extending compassion…extending mercy…to others and especially to others who don’t deserve it!
I love these tips from Richard Blackaby in Putting a Face on Grace…
- Speak words intended to build up, not to bring down.
- Focus on the needs of others, rather than your own.
- Freely forgive.
- Swallow you pride and say, “I’m sorry,” and “I was wrong.”
- Live your life with a goal of “no regrets.”
- Don’t keep score of what is fair.
- Don’t condemn or give up on people.
- Emphasize mercy, not justice.
- Read 1 Corinthians 13 regularly.
This is how we can reflect Christ and be an example for others to see Christ in us!
This Easter…let’s focus on the other side of grace and reflect on God’s grace to empower us to live our lives each and every day to show grace to others.
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